Growing up in India has a huge impact on your psyche. A friend invited me to lunch last week at her very fancy club here in Toronto. It was all so swish: the decor, the food, and yes, even the washrooms. I LOVED it. And spent the rest of the week reining in my inner memsahib.

A very talented (and generous) friend was asked by an acquaintance to help advance her career. My friend agreed to help. Said she’d be glad to. “No!” I said. “You are too kind to everyone and become over-burdened. I will be your ‘No’ manager and tell people no for you.” I don’t say: So you […]

Consider the multitudes volunteering to care for Ebola patients in Sierra Leone, Liberia, and Guinea. Consider the first responders who run towards trouble rather than away from it. Consider Malala Yousafzai who, at 15, despite being shot for advocating for female education, persists. Consider Kailash Satyarthi who campaigns to end child labour (we’re not talking about […]

I was recently introduced to a very accomplished man. We talked about his wonky career path and why he loves what he does. He’s open about the fact that he was adopted from India at age 8 by a Canadian family. As soon as he could, he got jobs, working three paper-routes when he was 13 years old […]

You return to the Consulate General of India with a complete list of documents as instructed by the staff person the day before. She gives you a smile of recognition and says, “Let me check if the officer will accept these documents and issue the attestation.” You respond: “I was here yesterday and you confirmed […]

Dr. Gotye B. Clingy, Ph.D. of the Institute of Helicopter Parenting tells parents they are right to worry as they pack their children off to college. Dr. Clingy is an expert in the field of Helicopter Parenting and the author of the seminal work: “Grown children and apron strings: Securing long-term ties.” The Institute is alarmed about the stubbornly […]

What’s not to love. At Diaspora Dialogues – Readings from the Underground on Saturday, May 24, authors read from the work of a banned writer followed by an excerpt from their own writing. The ever-engaging Garvia Bailey of the CBC hosted the first half of the program. The readings were part of year-round programming by Diaspora Dialogues which supports: […]

Early in 2014, a friend invited me to join her and some South Asian friends for a monthly dinner. At our fourth get-together, I overheard one of the women talking about visiting Bombay (where she grew up) annually. Long story short, I hear mention of Malabar Hill. I know exactly one person in Bombay (an old and […]

Click here for an excerpt from my short story Bee Stings. And please share with friends and family.

Full-disclosure: I’m the product of inter-marriage – a Bengali-Hindu woman married a Jewish-Californian man of Lithuanian descent and voila! Just in time for Valentine’s Day earlier this year, there was a report that the Israeli Prime Minister’s son was dating a non-jew: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-26067980 Why is it anybody’s business who the young man’s dating? Well, because. After […]

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Many physicists today postulate the existence of multiple universes, even when sober. We used to live in a world of infinite possibilities. Now we live in an infinite number of worlds. India shines. Democracy thrives. The economy booms. A hundred flyovers bloom. This is not that India. If you see your picture here one day, don’t worry. That’s not you.

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